Written by Sdwjr
I was in London on a vacation for the first time in a long time.How I picked this place I don’t record but I am here visiting some of the most historical landmarks.As I stopped to a particular place called Big Ben, I realized how time has a lot to do with the world we live everyday.
As I steered at the iconic place with this thought flowing through my head, who do I trust the most? The stranger or the open mask.We all know what I mean by the stranger or trusting the stranger.Or should I trust the open scar?
Jeremiah 9:4 (NCV) “Watch out for your friends, and don’t trust your own relatives, because every relative is a cheater, and every friend tells lies about you.
The scripture above made quite as well explain what an open scar really mean.Everyone who knows me will affirm that I am always about friends,family and people well being.Regardless of what life has made me to be I do question relationship with friends, and families, especially with siblings.
A close friend came back after seeing the beauty of the Big Ben, asked me if I was ok.I mentioned that I am between a split decision in my mind and I needed his help in making up my mind. After I got done explaining the situation,he told me,brother! “Once you understand the dynamics of why your family is so hateful and abusive towards you, you will be able to find peace and their attacks will no longer affect you as they once have. You can now reach the place where being hated, repudiated, separated from, or abused by your narcissistic family members, will no longer affect you the way that it used to. When you have trouble with your family members it is not a sign of being unloved by God, but exactly the opposite. It is a sign that you are a child of God who is being “persecuted for righteousness sake” and the persecutors are the members of your own family.He also stated “Think not that I am come to send peace on earth: I came not to send peace, but a sword. For I am come to set a man at variance against his father, and the daughter against her mother, and the daughter in law against her mother in law. And a man’s foes shall be they of his own household.” Matt. 10:34-35 KJV
Basically, he was implying that I trust the stranger rather than the open scar.I alway been that kind of person all my life and it has work fine for the most part.Total strangers have gravitated to me and support me and help me succeed.I mean complete stranger who I don’t know and they don’t know me.I could relate to why he told me to take the stranger over the open scar.
Who don’t want to reconnect or connect or get along with their own family? He said,brother, “You’re never the reason or problem, you’re the type of person who do better with stranger in strange places .That is who you’re and accept it and live with it.” How he said it,I was like,yeah! That is some real talk.
I got back to America and accepted the reality that some are meant to flourish in stranger land with strange people who are their family without the help of their family.Do I have the intention of reconnecting with anyone of my family the question will in due time.Until then I am a stranger in a strange land with strange people who don’t care who I am.