“Spend more time with the person but don’t live with the person. Time makes the difference” Sdwjr.
People have told me if we don’t live together how will we get to know one another? Infact, sharing the same space is the best way to know anyone. Besides, what is really wrong with living with someone that you’re not legally or legitimate married to? “No one wants to suffer the heartache of a broken relationship, whether it is a divorce or the dissolution of a cohabiting situation. While living together may have short-term advantages, it comes at a high long-term cost.”Firstthingfirst
THAT’S LIE : Living together is an easy way to “try out” the relationship before committing to marriage.
Interesting how we’ve developed the idea of “test driving” a car before you buy it is a good idea, it doesn’t apply to marriage. Living together is basically a “pretend marriage” and nothing like the real deal. Watch! Couples who live together often have attitudes like: “I can leave at any time,” and “My money is mine vs. yours isn’t mine” that married couples don’t typically have. Married couples often have a stronger bond to each other because of their vow of permanence. Married couples also tend to have less volatile relationships.
Individually, it isn’t wrong to live with a person, and share everything with the person.Again, you can do whatever you like that is your life but when it comes to the truth of moral standard, I mentioned the word truth of moral standard, by that I mean marital standard.
THAT’S A LIE : Living together will Build us a stronger marriage.
You wouldn’t be how many couples think that moving in together can give them a better idea of what is head in their marriage, they don’t know living together can actually harm their marriage. individuals who live together before they marry have an extreme divorce rate that is 50-60 percent higher than those who don’t.
You might say that isn’t happening to me, so, therefore, it doesn’t applied to me. It applied to those who believe in that spiritual stuff.
THAT’S A LIE: They say your sex life goes downhill when you get married.
That’s a lie from hell.The level of sexual satisfaction is higher among married couples than for couples who live together. Couples who live together tend to be less faithful to their partners than married couples.
Let’s get off the spirituality part and look at the social side of it.
THAT’S A LIE: Marriage is just a piece of paper.
Call it however way you want to Called it. It is commitment.Emotionally, physically and spiritually, marriage is so much more than a piece of paper. Viewing marriage as only a legal arrangement strips it of its meaning and sets the relationship up for failure. If couples do not view marriage as a loving, committed relationship, divorce is almost inevitable.
THAT’S A LIE : It’s only temporary.
Many people enter a cohabiting relationship hoping they will be married soon. However, living together isn’t always a stepping-stone to marriage. Statistics report that 60 percent of couples who live together will not go on to get married either because they break up (39 percent) or just continue to live together (21 percent).
How many relationships that have survived living together? I read a blog that states,”The thing about moving in with a partner, is you kind of have to take them into consideration.
THAT’S A LIE: Living together is best if children are involved.
If the man in the household is not the biological father, children are at greater risk of experiencing physical and sexual abuse.Children in these situations are at risk of emotional and social difficulties, performing poorly in school, having early premarital sex and having difficulty forming permanent emotional attachments in adulthood.The effects of cohabitation on children is significant.
How to have a healthy, long-lasting relationship
If your goal is to have a stable, healthy and fulfilling relationship, here are some tips.
TIME. This is the only surefire way to find out if a couple is compatible. Time gives you the opportunity to see how your partner handles different situations that life throws at you: the hard stressful times, the joyous and rewarding times, and the humdrum of everyday. If you can survive these life events with someone and still love them then there is an excellent chance your relationship will last.
COMMUNICATION. Relationships aren’t always wine and roses. Know that your partner will disappoint and frustrate you at times. Knowing how to communicate increases your chances of being able to resolve and even prevent conflict.
CONSIDER MARRIAGE. What makes marriage unique from simply living together is a “vow of permanence.” Partners publicly promise they will no longer be alone and no matter what happens down the road someone will be there to take care of you and support you.
PREMARITAL EDUCATION. Couples who attend premarital programs experience a 30 percent increase in marital success over those who do not. They report greater communication, sharpened conflict management skills, a strong dedication to one’s spouse and overall improved relationship quality.