MICHAL VS DAVID:MY WIFE IS MY GREATEST HATER AND I ENJOY IT.

“NOT MY TYPE OF CAR BUT I HAD TO MAKE IT COUNT.”Dr.Sdwjr

My final years in Theological school I was told to do a Thesis of any one of the characters in the Bible.As we all know there many interesting characters in the Bible with hectic stories that relates to us even today,of all the characters I picked King David and Michal. 1st.Samuel 18-19 ; 2nd Samuel 3:13-16,6:12-26

There’s a beautiful word in Hebrew חֶסֶד that’s pronounced ‘hesed’. It’s often translated as ‘loving kindness’ and is a word that describes the sacrificial love that exists between people, and that of the love God has for humanity.

It’s interesting though that the root of the word can mean both passion for someone and also passion against someone. Love and hate are closely entwined, and the most passionate love can turn very quickly into something ugly, as anyone whose marriage or relationship hasn’t turned out as they expect will know only too well.

“Love and hate are closely entwined, and the most passionate love can turn very quickly into something ugly, as anyone whose marriage or relationship hasn’t turned out as they expect will know only too well.”SDWJR

Let’s jump in our two characters called David and Michal.Michal was the youngest daughter of King Saul, the first king of Israel and Judah, and she is the only woman the Bible explicitly states as loving a man.

Let’s fast forward to Michal’s Parent King Saul who didn’t want her daughter involve with David.David was a handsome young man in the king’s household who’d gained Saul’s favour by killing off his enemy Goliath. Saul was delighted with the idea of a union between his daughter and David for the sole reason that he saw it as an opportunity to get rid of his rival, and his plan is both macabre and bizarre.

“EVEN A GODLY PARENT CAN BE A DESTRUCTIVE PERSON IN THEIR CHILDREN MARRIAGE.”

Let’s keep on reading .They got married anyways without anyone approval but battle was still fought in the mind of Michal that her family,especially her father didn’t like David.They claimed he was arrogant,womanized and homeless man.Those were the evil thoughts in the head of Michal toward David,and he didn’t care what she or they thought of him.

Michal’s story involves deep love but it’s a love that is never truly shared and it turns into profound bitterness, and ultimately to hatred.

You may remember the quote by Princess Diana when speaking about her marriage to Charles:

'There were three of us in this marriage'

“MAKE IT COUNT AND I MEAN COUNT TIL IT DOESN’T COUNT.PAINT REVEALS TRUE COLOR.”Sdwjr

David returned from war having claimed the Arc of the Covenant (the ancient symbol of God’s presence), and was so happy he danced in the streets with abandon:

The argument descended as so many marital rows do. He told her he could celebrate however he liked and warned her he could become even more undignified. She accused him of losing his clothes in front of the servants and he threw at her the fact her father lost the entire kingdom!

Hurtful words said in the heat of an argument can’t easily be taken back again.

Michal watched him from a window: she was not impressed. David had gone back home expecting a hero’s welcome from his wife, but instead he got the full force of her fury

Michal daughter of Saul had no children to the day of her death.

2 Samuel 6.23

Sadly, Michal and David’s relationship (if their union could ever have been called that) never recovers and the last we hear is:

“A PERSON IS BROKEN AND STAY BROKEN BY BROKEN CONVERSATIONS THAT ELUDE FROM BROKEN PEOPLE WHO ARE THEIR CLOSE CONTACTS.”Sdwjr


Michal is a great character isn’t she? I find it refreshing to read about a bible woman given a a full range of human emotions, from sacrificial love, to irritation, to downright hatred! She was willing to dedicate her life to David but by the end even the way he danced drove her mad with irritation.

Her story reminds us of the delicate nature of human love. It’s so easy to take one another for granted and to let the small irritations fester and grow. Let’s protect and nurture the loving relationships that we have, whether they be with a partner, friend or family member, and especially at this time of global and local anxiety. Remember that the love we have for one another is but a dim reflection of the sacrificial (hesed) love that our heavenly father has for each of us, a love that is revealed through the ultimate sacrifice of Jesus on the cross.

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