17Ways How to Put God at the Center of Your Relationship:

If you want to know how to put God at the center of your relationship, here are 17 ways that I hope can lead you both closer to Him and each other.

1. Strengthen your personal relationship with God.
You cannot direct your relationship unto the spiritual level if you have not reached it personally yet. Before imposing this goal into the relationship, strengthen your own faith and relationship with your Creator. He can only work in your relationship if you let Him work in your first.

2. Love God first before your partner.
You may find this ridiculous because we are in the 21st century and you think religion should just be 10% of your life. Well, let me assure you that God does not require you to be religious so you can be closer to Him. He wants a father-child relationship with you.

And let me remind you that He has every right to demand that He should be first in your life because He created you—and for Himself (Colossians 1:16).

3. Fear the Lord.
If you are familiar with the story of Joseph the Dreamer, you would notice that when he was tempted by the wife of Potiphar (his master) to sleep with her, he refused her not because he feared her husband but because he did not want to sin against God (Genesis 39).

If you love God, you would fear to do anything that displeases God—not because He gets terribly angry but because you don’t want to hurt Him—and that includes cheating on your partner.

4. Pray for each other.
They say that if you are praying for a person, you become spiritually attached to him/her. Well, I believe it is true because if you keep on blessing your partner in the spirit, you contribute to his/her well-being in the physical realm. Making this a habit between you is also one way of supporting and helping each other.

Surely, you are familiar with the saying: “A family that prays together stays together”. If you have a plan to be a family someday, then starting a prayer habit now is just healthy. Instead of bickering over problems, why don’t you kneel down together and pray about them?

6. Church time before date.
On Sundays, before you go on a date, make it a rule to go to church together first. Also, if the time is limited and you have to choose between God-time and babe-time, then I strongly encourage you to go for God-time. God honors those who honor Him, so if He sees that you put Him first before your relationship, then I believe He will bless you with more time for each other.

7. Study God’s Word together.
Personally, I find the Bible full of wisdom that can help us handle the different areas of life, including relationships. If you are a Christian and you believe the Bible as God-breathed scriptures, then I suggest that you take time to study it as a couple. I encourage you to be part of a small group that discusses how the Bible can be applied in life.

8. Ask God to help you change your bad attitudes.
A healthy relationship does not require you to change your personality—but it motivates you to change bad attitudes. Aside from cheating, many broken relationships are blamed on pride—one of the exes or both find it hard to admit mistakes and apologize first. However, only God can help us change for the better so ask Him to help you apply the Bible in your life.

9. Help each other grow in your relationship with God.
If only one of you gives importance to the spiritual condition of your relationship, then it will not be balanced and the ‘boat’ would sink on the side of the unbelieving. Make it a goal as a couple to help each other grow in faith especially when one of you is weak. Do not just remind each other to pray, read the Bible, or go to church—but do them together.

10. Be reminded that your partner is fearfully and wonderfully made by God.
At times when you are tempted to compare your partner to someone you think to be better, or you wish s/he were someone else, please remember that the same God who created you uniquely is the same God who created him/her as well. Appreciate your partner as who s/he is because like you, s/he is loved and special to the Lord.

11. Apply the 1 Corinthians 13 in your relationship.
If you want a guide of how love should be, then read 1 Corinthians 13:4-8. To give you a glimpse, this passage says that love is patient, kind, and not self-seeking. You can use these verses as a checklist to see if true love exists in your relationship.

12. Look for the counsel of spiritually-mature individuals.
Whenever your relationship is on the rocks, seek advice from God-fearing people. They won’t only pray for you, but you can also get wisdom from them on how you can maturely handle the situation. Avoid those whose primary solution to problems is alcohol—it won’t solve anything.

13. Wait until marriage.
I am not being a hypocrite, old-fashioned, or judgmental here—trust me I know what I am talking about. Doing that ‘thing’ which only married couples should do leads to a lot of negative consequences. Aside from emotional scars in case you break-up, unplanned pregnancies, and UTI (yes, s*x is one of the culprits of urinary tract infection, and you can confirm this with healthcare workers), this actually hinders God’s blessings in your relationship—because even if it is already the 21st century, it is still a sin in His eyes.

14. Get married.
If you want to start your own family, then start right by getting married. Living-in together may be the trend today, but if you acknowledge God, then you won’t do it because it is not right without marriage. Again, this hinders blessings into your relationship—or family.

If money is the problem, then please know that a wedding does not have to be expensive. In case you can’t afford church wedding in the meantime, then a civil wedding will do. It is still honored by God since the authorized personnel to conduct the ceremony has His anointing (Romans 13:1).

15. Serve God together. 
Won’t it be fulfilling if you would serve God together? As an individual, God has given you each spiritual gifts and a specific calling. Support each other to pursue your call and use your God-given talents to glorify Him.

16. Make it a relationship goal to help others.
The best way to serve God is by serving others. Your relationship would be stronger if it has a purpose. Find out how you, as a couple, can bless others who are in need—like supporting a charity or donating school supplies to kids. Even though small things, you can already create a difference in the society, especially when you inspire other couples to do the same.

ALSO READ: 8 Ways to Truly Bless Your Relationship

17. Treat each other with grace—just like how Jesus treats you.
Putting God at the center of your relationship does not make you, your partner, or your relationship perfect. However, it teaches you how to treat imperfections with grace—which means not giving up on the relationship easily just because of challenges. If you are hurt, forgive just like how God forgives you and be willing to give second chances.

A Strong Foundation

Acknowledging God in your relationship does not guarantee a smooth and easy journey as a couple. However, it makes you stronger in trials and more patient with each other. It will also help you be wiser and braver in taking steps to the future together.

Chadwick Boseman: Five things to know about the Black Panther star

US actor Chadwick Boseman, best known for playing Black Panther in the hit Marvel superhero franchise, has died of cancer aged 43. 

He died at home in Los Angeles with his wife and family by his side, a statement posted on social media said.

Boseman was diagnosed with colon cancer four years ago but had not made the information public. 

The news has left fans and the film world stunned. Get Out director Jordan Peele said it was “a crushing blow”.

“A true fighter, Chadwick persevered through it all, and brought you many of the films you have come to love so much,” his family said in the statement.

“From Marshall to Da 5 Bloods, August Wilson’s Ma Rainey’s Black Bottom and several more – all were filmed during and between countless surgeries and chemotherapy. It was the honor of his career to bring King T’Challa to life in Black Panther.”Skip Twitter post by @chadwickbosemanhttps://platform.twitter.com/embed/index.html?creatorScreenName=BBCWorld&dnt=false&embedId=twitter-widget-0&frame=false&hideCard=false&hideThread=false&id=1299530165463199747&lang=en&origin=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.bbc.com%2Fnews%2Fworld-us-canada-53955912&siteScreenName=BBCWorld&theme=light&widgetsVersion=223fc1c4%3A1596143124634&width=550pxReport

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Boseman came to prominence playing real-life figures – baseball great Jackie Robinson in 2013’s 42, and soul singer James Brown in 2014’s Get on Up.

However, it will be as the titular Black Panther in the blockbuster 2018 film he will be best remembered. 

Boseman stars as the ruler of Wakanda, a fictional African nation with the most advanced technology on earth.

As well as winning critical praise and taking more than $1.3 billion US dollars (£973m) at cinemas worldwide, the film was widely seen as a cultural milestone for having a largely black cast and a black director, Ryan Coogler.

Boseman said last year that the film had changed what it means to be “young, gifted and black”.

Black Panther was the first superhero film to get a nomination for best picture at the Oscars.

He also played the same role in other Marvel films Captain America: Civil War, Avengers: Infinity War and Avengers: Endgame. 

A sequel was in the works and due to come out in 2022, with Boseman set to return. 

The news of his death came as a shock to many as Boseman never discussed his diagnosis publicly. 

However, fans started raising concerns over his health this year due to noticeable weight loss.

Tributes have already begun pouring in for the star, including from actor and fellow Marvel star Mark Ruffalo.Skip Twitter post by @MarkRuffalohttps://platform.twitter.com/embed/index.html?creatorScreenName=BBCWorld&dnt=false&embedId=twitter-widget-1&frame=false&hideCard=false&hideThread=false&id=1299541402800533505&lang=en&origin=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.bbc.com%2Fnews%2Fworld-us-canada-53955912&siteScreenName=BBCWorld&theme=light&widgetsVersion=223fc1c4%3A1596143124634&width=550pxReport

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Actor Dwayne Johnson tweeted: “Thank you for shining your light and sharing your talent with the world. My love and strength to your family.”

Political figures have also started paying their respects, including Democratic vice presidential nominee Kamala Harris.Skip Twitter post by @KamalaHarrishttps://platform.twitter.com/embed/index.html?creatorScreenName=BBCWorld&dnt=false&embedId=twitter-widget-2&frame=false&hideCard=false&hideThread=false&id=1299545362479411201&lang=en&origin=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.bbc.com%2Fnews%2Fworld-us-canada-53955912&siteScreenName=BBCWorld&theme=light&widgetsVersion=223fc1c4%3A1596143124634&width=550pxReport

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The state that locks up the highest percentage of black men is Wisconsin.

The state that locks up the highest percentage of black men is Wisconsin. The national average is 6.7%, but in Wisconsin it’s 12.8% – more than three percentage points higher than the second-placed state, Oklahoma.disparity the US Attorney General Eric Holder has described as “shameful”. 

For decades in the US, the incarceration rate for African Americans has been much higher than for whites, a racial disparity the US Attorney General Eric Holder has described as “shameful”. 

In part to address this, Mr Holder unveiled a policy shift that will mean the US locks up fewer people convicted of non-violent, drugs offences.

WHO IS JACOB BLAKE by Friendz Of Culture

Mr Blake was raised in Evanston, a town outside the city of Chicago.

His uncle, Justin, told the Chicago Tribune newspaper that he moved to Kenosha several years ago for a job and for his family.

“It was a safer location. He could work and try to save and build a better life,” said Justin.

His family have a long history of community activism. Mr Blake’s grandfather, also called Jacob, was a pastor at a church in Evanston, and a local leader in the civil rights movement. He was also a prolific campaigner for affordable housing and led his congregation in constructing a housing block in the city.

Justin Blake said Mr Blake continued this tradition of public service and volunteered with Black Urban Recycling – a charity that collects aluminium cans and recycles them to raise money for a community centre in Chicago.

Court records show there was an active arrest warrant against Mr Blake, related to charges of sexual assault, trespassing and disorderly conduct. But it is unclear if police were aware of this at the time of his shooting.

17-year-old arrested after 2 killed during unrest in Kenosha 

KENOSHA, Wis. (AP) — A white, 17-year-old police admirer was arrested Wednesday after two people were shot to death during a third straight night of protests in Kenosha over the police shooting of a Black man, Jacob Blake.

Kyle Rittenhouse, of Antioch, Illinois, about 15 miles from Kenosha, was taken into custody in Illinois on suspicion of first-degree intentional homicide in the attack Tuesday that was largely captured on cellphone video. The shooting left a third person wounded.

“I just killed somebody,” the gunman, carrying a semi-automatic rifle, could be heard saying at one point during the rampage that erupted just before midnight in the city of 100,000 people midway between Milwaukee and Chicago.

In the wake of the killings, Wisconsin Gov. Tony Evers authorized the deployment of 500 members of the National Guard to Kenosha, doubling the number of troops. The governor’s office said he is working with other states to bring in additional National Guard members and law officers. Authorities also announced a 7 p.m. curfew, an hour earlier than the night before. Even so, protesters were out Wednesday, night after the curfew.

“A senseless tragedy like this cannot happen again,” the governor, a Democrat, said in a statement. “I again ask those who choose to exercise their First Amendment rights please do so peacefully and safely, as so many did last night. I also ask the individuals who are not there to exercise those rights to please stay home and let local first responders, law enforcement and members of the Wisconsin National Guard do their jobs.”


A white man shot at a group of Black Lives Matter activists on a 730-mile march from Wisconsin to DC. One protester was hospitalized and demonstrators refused to leave him behind.

Dozens of Black Lives Matter protestors were fired at Monday night in Pennsylvania, one activist, Whitney Cabal, told Insider Tuesday.

One organizer of the march, who goes by Cino, was shot in the abdomen and was hospitalized overnight, said Cabal, who has spent the night in the facility’s parking

“My brain is broken. My energy is broken,” said Cabal, who was standing near Cino when the shots were fired.

Cabal, who is from Kenosha, Wisconsin — where police shot Jacob Blake was shot at least seven times in back Sunday — joined Cino and other activists as they follow Milwaukee activist Frank Nitty on a 730-mile march to Washington, DC to bring awareness to racial injustice. Nitty and the group of around 50 people are scheduled to arrive in the city on August 27, a day before the 57th anniversary of Martin Luther King Jr.’s “I Have a Dream” speech.

The group, both walking and in cars, stopped to rest on the side of the road in the Juniata Township, a rural neighborhood in Bedford County, Pennsylvania, to hold a night march and plan where they would settle for the night.

Cabal said she was dancing at the time when she heard several pops in the distance and asked if it was gunshots, but was assured it was likely fireworks. 

“All of a sudden, we see this older white man come hurling out of the bushes, and he’s firing at us,” Cabal told Insider. “I was crouching behind my car door.” 

Cabal said at that point, Cino tried to talk to the man telling him to go back in the house and demonstrators made their way back to their cars. The man was yelling back. 


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8:56 AM PT — The police department said the shots were fired just as the victim was about to enter the convenience store, armed with a knife. What they did not explain … why 11 shots?

A Black man was fatally shot and killed by cops — shot 11 times — as he walked away from them, and it was all caught on video.

The man was at a gas station in Lafayette, Louisiana when someone called police to report a disturbance. At least half a dozen police arrived, and according to the eyewitness –who shot the video — he appeared to be holding a knife.

You hear cops order the man on the ground, but he continues to walk. The woman who shot the video says she saw police tase him, but he was still upright.

As the man reaches the door of the gas station convenience store, shots ring out — 11 shots, and the man is dead.

A spokesperson from the Louisiana State Police says the man was involved in an altercation in an intersection. It’s unclear from police reports, but it appears cops may have followed the man for half a mile before the fatal encounter at the gas station.

The officers have all been placed on administrative leave with pay pending an investigation.

SEE IT: Retired NYPD detective beaten unconscious by Manhattan homeless man

 retired NYPD detective was mercilessly beaten and knocked unconscious by a Manhattan homeless man in a harrowing attack caught on camera.

The 56-year-old retiree was at a deli on W. 39th St. near Ninth Ave. at 9:10 a.m. on Aug. 11 when he asked 20-year-old Masterjardin Roman to stop panhandling in front of the store, police sources said.

The ensuing clash between the two men was caught on surveillance video obtained by the Daily News. After about a minute of arguing, Roman, who lives in a shelter on W. 41st St., threw a bottle at the former detective who then chased after Roman.

As the two struggled on the sidewalk, Roman tackled the older man to the ground, causing the retired cop to briefly lose consciousness, officials said.

Roman landed 16 punches on the cop before he got up, briefly walked away, then ran back and kicked the retiree in the face, the video shows.

He then walked off with a friend who watched the entire attack, the clip shows.

The retired detective, who lives in Monroe, Orange County was taken to Mount Sinai Morningside with bruises, cuts and a possible head fracture, police said.

Cops arrested Roman on Ninth Ave. near W. 34th St. two days later, about five blocks from the original attack. When officers took him into custody, Roman had a machete in his backpack, officials said.

Police charged him with assault and criminal possession of a weapon, and gave him a desk appearance ticket to appear in court at a later date.[More New York] Man arrested for ammo possession linked to July murder of Brooklyn woman who was fatally shot after demanding neighbors stop lighting fireworks near children »

It was not immediately clear if Roman had the machete on him when he attacked the retired officer.